Since the last time I had to pick out a tux was senior year in high school (prom date who apparently needed my help picking out a vest to match my black dress) and that was well over 8 years ago, I really had no idea what to expect, and Ryan wasn't much help, either. The tuxes were one of those things that Ryan didn't really have a strong opinion about, and so the two of us walked in to MW Tux completely blind and completely expecting to order tuxes and be done with it all in one day. Ha ha ha ha. I seriously wish it had been that easy.
To be completely honest, picking out tuxes was the absolute hardest decision I have hard to make yet. There's something about tuxes that scream "prom" or worse, "I want to be James Bond". Now, for our after 6pm wedding, we really don't have any other choices, and really, I do like the look for the tux. I'm just really not into the bridesmaids-dress-matching-tux-vest. I defaulted to Ryan, hoping that he'd feel really strongly about a vest and tie combo, but he truly didn't and implored me to pick what I wanted. While an opinion would have been helpful, I really couldn't be upset with his wanting me to pick out his wedding day outfit (for other fancy occasions, he holds up the shirt he wants to wear and then asks me to match a tie and dress pants... I know, he's adorable), so I hunted down a salesman and we got down to business.
The conversation:
Me: We're looking to rent some tuxes for a wedding.
Salesman: OK, have you flipped through the book? ::gestures to the thick "look book" that Ryan and I had spent well over 20 minutes looking through when we first got in while waiting for a salesman to help us::
Me: Yes, we did. Would he ::gestures to the groom:: be able to try anything on?
Salesman: We don't keep anything here in stock, it all comes from Dallas.
Me: ::shocked:: How am I supposed to know what looks best on him; I've never even seen him in a tuxedo.
Salesman: Just pick something out of the book and it'll be fine.
Well, people, I do not want my husband-to-be to look fine on our wedding day. I want him to look dashing. I want him to look handsome. I want him to look like himself. And mainly, I want him to look different than every other groom-to-be on their wedding day.
And as I thought these things, a swell of panic welled up inside me. I looked at Ryan and I said "We can't do this today". He nodded, took my hand, said thanks to the salesman, and pulled me out of the store.
I know what you're thinking: "Tuxedos? That is what you are so upset about? That is the hardest decision you've had to make thus far?" Well, I truly hate to admit it, but yes. To me, there's just something so uniform about tuxedos (yes, the bridesmaids are all wearing the same floor length gown, don't ask). But after a good amount of thinking, I think we came up with the perfect solution. We are going to buy ties that match the girls dresses, and then when we go back to rent the tuxes, we'll have something to go off of - maybe we'll do vests, maybe not. But either way, the guys, and especially Ryan, will look just a little different from everyone else who has ever worn those rented pants and jackets.
Not five minutes after deciding to buy ties, we walked into Macys and found Ryan's tie:
(Tribeca by Sean John silk tie)A close up of the pattern:
Ryan's tie isn't pink -we actually found it in diamond white and it is going to match my gown exactly. The one we bought (white) also has a smattering of little silver sparkles... it's quite dreamy. The instant we bought it I felt a hundred times better about the whole matchy-matchy tuxedo thing.... now we just need to find some ties for the groomsmen and we'll be ready to head back to MW Tux!
Anyone else have a hard time with tuxes, or was it seriously just me?
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